A Critical Step to Growing Oneness in Your Marriage



“And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:3-6 Oneness. It was God's idea – the two becoming one in marriage. I think most often think about this in the context of our physical intimacy in marriage – our bodies uniting as husband and wife. But just as God did not create us body only – but body, soul, and spirit – we need to connect emotionally and spiritually as well. Much of the “marriage help” that is available today focuses on “connecting emotionally”. And while that is an important area we need to consistently grow in, most couples spend little time focusing on their spiritual connection. The husband has his morning time with God. The wife does her devotional time each day as well. But how can we become more intentional about growing our spiritual connection – our spiritual oneness? I would answer that question with one word: Prayer! Prayer is not the be-all and end-all of spiritual connection as husband and wife, but I do feel it is foundational. Check out the below Scriptures on prayer:


  • Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in My Name, there am I among them.” Matthew 18:19-20

  • Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12

  • Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving. Colossians 4:2

The Matthew passage calls me to pray with others and also reminds me of God's faithfulness in answering prayer. The Romans verse exhorts me to be constant in praying as does the “continue steadfastly” in the Colossians verse. I encourage you to use all three of these passages and the Matthew passage as well to help form your prayer to God this day! A final encouragement from David Mathis to grow in Oneness by consistently praying together: One of the best ways to get to know a fellow believer is to pray together. It is in prayer, in the conscious presence of God, that we’re most likely to let our façades fall. We hear others’ hearts in prayer like nowhere else. (1) Prayer Quote: "True prayer is neither a mere mental exercise nor a vocal performance. It is far deeper than that - it is spiritual transaction with the Creator of Heaven and Earth." - Charles Spurgeon Source (1) : Desiring God Website: https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/nine-profits-of-praying-with-company


AUTHOR: Glen Solberg is a man who is passionate about marriage - his own and the marriages of those around him! He and his wife, Shawn, have been married since 1992 and have been investing in the marriages of others full-time since 2003. You can find out more by going to the About Page.

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