Yes, I know! Valentine’s Day was a few weeks ago. But now that we are past February 14th, does that mean we have “done our duty” to say we love and appreciate our spouse? I know she loved the flowers and the special meal out. And I’m sure he appreciated that special gift you got him and the card you lovingly took time to write. But shouldn’t this kind of thankfulness and care extend beyond February 14th?
Husbands, we need to show love and appreciation to our wife every day. And wives, your husband needs your respect as well as your love. But what does this look like on an everyday basis with my spouse?
I think the best place to figure this out is in 1 Corinthians 13, where it says:
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
This is the kind of love we need to have for our spouse. An unconditional love that is ONLY possible supernaturally by God empowering us. He is able to give you the power to do this as you surrender to Him.
I saw a Valentine’s Day card recently that make me think of that passage in 1 Corinthians. Here is what it said:
Love you naughty, love you sweet. Love you messy, love you neat.
Love you cuddly, love you mad. Love you giggly, love you sad.
Love you quiet, love you loud. Love you nervous, love you proud.
Love you crabby, love you fine. Love you always, Valentine.
Isn’t that awesome? That’s not a conditional love, when things are only going well, but a supernatural, unconditional love that flows from a Christ-centered heart.
Question: How can you show love and appreciation for your spouse today?
Challenge: Take time right now, to send a text, make a call, write a note, etc. that would let your spouse know they are special, not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day of the year. And keep on doing that from time to time!
Glen Solberg is a man who is passionate about marriage - his own and the marriages of those around him! He and his wife, Shawn, have been married since 1992 and have been investing in the marriages of others full-time since 2003. You can find out more by going to the About Page.
Written by Glen Solberg, Marriage Revolution, 2018. All Rights Reserved.